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Valentine's Day Gift better than diamonds, chocolate or sex

10 reasons why Child Proofing Your Relationship Charity Class for Haiti makes THE BEST Valentine's Day Gift!
 
1.  It's a charity event and 100% of the profit  will be donated to Haiti
2. Because it's a one of a kind date you'll never forget
3. It's a fantastic pre-dinner activity and you can get an early bird discount on a sitter (ask how)
4. It's sure to make your Valentine's Day magical and bring the spark back to your marriage
5. It's vetted "guy friendly" format  (with no self disclosure needed)
6. You'll walk in with a problem and out with a solution
7. Guys if you go you are sure to get lucky that night and more nights from now on
8.  Everyone who has ever taken this class says it exceeds their expectations
9.  You'll learn a relationship saving conflict solving technique that will blow your mind
10.. Your kids will be the ultimate benefactors because research shows when you make time for your relationship and have a happy marriage  kids are happier, healthier and even smarter.  No joke.  
      So come on!  Spread the love this Valentine's Day and help those in need in Haiti at the same time.
February 14, 2010 from 3-6pm
Cost is by Donation
 

Valentine's Day Gift better than diamonds, chocolate or sex

10 reasons why Child Proofing Your Relationship Charity Class for Haiti makes THE BEST Valentine's Day Gift!
 
1.  It's a charity event and 100% of the profit  will be donated to Haiti
2. Because it's a one of a kind date you'll never forget
3. It's a fantastic pre-dinner activity and you can get an early bird discount on a sitter (ask how)
4. It's sure to make your Valentine's Day magical and bring the spark back to your marriage
5. It's vetted "guy friendly" format  (with no self disclosure needed)
6. You'll walk in with a problem and out with a solution
7. Guys if you go you are sure to get lucky that night and more nights from now on
8.  Everyone who has ever taken this class says it exceeds their expectations
9.  You'll learn a relationship saving conflict solving technique that will blow your mind
10.. Your kids will be the ultimate benefactors because research shows when you make time for your relationship and have a happy marriage  kids are happier, healthier and even smarter.  No joke.  
      So come on!  Spread the love this Valentine's Day and help those in need in Haiti at the same time.
February 14, 2010 from 3-6pm
Cost is by Donation
 

Spreading the Love: Haitian Relief Fund Charity Class

 I can't stop thinking about the people of Haiti.  Perhaps it is because I had the fortune of working with  many courageous Hataian immigrants who taught me how to say Sak Pase when I was  a social worker in New York City .  Or maybe it's because I live near a fault line and earthquake mentality drives my decisions on where to hang  or not to hang pictures  (never over the bed).  Or maybe it's simply because being a mother has made life  and loved ones so very precious. 

So,  I'm helping by spreading love with some charity.  The next "Child Proofing Your Relationship Class" I am offering will be a charity class with proceeds donated to the Hataian Earthquake Disaster Relief Fund

The details:
Childproofing Your Relationship is a crash course for love across a lifetime offered this Valentine's Day Sunday February 14th in San Diego from 3pm-6pm.  Location TBA based on registrations.  Advanced Registration is Required.

Click Here to reserve your spot 

Cost: is by donation.  Pay what you think it's worth.  How much is learning how to get your partner to really hear you worth to you?  How much will you spend to learn how to fall in love with your partner over and over again?

100% of the profit will be donated to  Hataian Earthquake Disaster Relief Fund  plus Baby Maven will donate $100 when $1,000 is raised.

More about the class:
Child Proofing Your Relationship is a very "guy friendly" format emphasizing the unique role men play. There is no self disclosure necessary.  The format is small lecture segments based on 100% researched information followed by break out session  with your partner.

Who should take the class:
It's most relevant to couples with or expecting children and  the skills can be applied across the lifespan to gay and straight couples.  It also makes a great gift.  Sponsor a couple you love.

And here are just a few of the things people are saying about my past classes:

              "You can't afford not to make this investment in each other." - Jayme, San Diego

                   “This class exceeded my expectations by far."  -William A, New York

                   “I don’t like group sessions and was intimidated by the thought of this workshop but Carrie made the environment very                         comfortable and I feel every minute was very valuable to us.” - JM, San Diego

Call 800.383.1790 with any questions.

Help me spread with word.   Haiti is the poorest country in the Western Hemisphere  and  by some  stroke of luck we live here.  Tweet it out, email your friends and put it on Facebook...

                                                                                                             Lape Haiti

- Carrie





Can Twitter Lower C-Section Rates?

Unless you are living off the grid you know Dooce  had her baby.  Who knew so many people could be waiting in collective suspense to find out her name?  Who knew I would care.  I am so curious about her labor "12 seconds of pushing" and any possible connected to the fact that almost 700,000 people were frantically refreshing their twitter tools to find out how things were moving along.  

 The studies on the positive powers of prayer for the sick are well documented.  When almost 700,000 people are thinking good labor thoughts for you maybe it's a little easier to push out a baby.  Maybe you can feel that collective good will and get in touch with your inner hear-me-roar-birth-this-baby-now-warrior-woman?    Maybe there should be twitter virtual "sit in's" for mama's in labor and our c-section rates would go down.  Maybe it's a whole new world.

First the bucket list now the LOVE LIST

There are certain things on your list TO DO before you die.  Maybe you want to take a ballon ride over Africa or see Paris at dawn.  Perhaps you want to run the New York City Marathon or climb Mount Everest.. 

What about an adventure much closer to home?   Is  the person you choose to have your journey through this life with you on the list?  "Huh?"   You say in your head.    You mean the person I brush my teeth with every night?  No.  Not exciting.   No surprises or adventures there. 

We often trade the excitement of new love for the stability and security of long term intimacy but maybe it doesn't have to be either or. 

Do you remember that fast heart beat feeling you got when you first saw your spouse?  Can you imagine getting that back?   Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity says, "Most people have  2 or 3 relationships in their adult lifetime but  some have those relationships with the same person."

In Bootie After Baby couples will create a LOVE LIST that will jump start the passion in their marriage.  Imagine the greatest adventure of your life is getting to fall in love with your partner over and again. 

Booties After Baby June 25th 6-9pm New York City
www.babymaven.org  Register Now. 

The secret to a happy life

We do a poor job in our culture appreciating fathers.  In tv commercials and sitcom's dad's  are portrayed as  beer drinking buffoons like Homer Simpson.  Children's literature is the same; over 60% of children's books don't even mention a father. 

And maybe in generations past dads were less involved but today's father overwhelmingly expresses a desire to be more involved than his father was and strives to be an equal parenting partner .  It's a good thing too because the research about the essential nature of dad's role in child rearing is overwhelming.  In fact, the number one predictor of overall happiness and success in life can be linked to having an emotionally available father in childhood.    This father's day, take the time to recognize the dad's in your life and check out this fantastic site.

ProActiveDads.com - Dedicated to showing the world that Dads are not second-class parents!

why hoping to "get some" backfires

What does every new dad want for father's day?  Not a neck tie.  Not new swim trunks.  Not even a framed picture with your kids hand print. 
Nope. 

Your guy wants the sex life he had before the pitter patter of little feet across floor filled your days and your nights.  The only problem is he doesn't know how to get it.  He's just hoping to"get some" but guess what?  Hoping to "get some" means someone has to "GIVE some" and what are new mom's doing all day and night long?  Um, giving. 


So is there sex after kids?  Yes!  In Bootie After Baby new parents learn how to turn
overtures into invitations in the art of married modern flirting.  June 25th NYC 800.383.1790  or www.babymaven.org

A Father's Day Gift that Is Sure to Please

What is the best gift you can get your guy?  How about hopes for the sex life you had before kids?  Right  but how?  I'll tell you.  Take a Bootie After Baby class and learn:

The Art of Married Modern Flirting
What are the Yes But's
The secrete Potion for Passion
Why "hoping to "get some" won't work and how to turn overtures into invitations

This class is based on the latest research from sex and couples therapists.  Give your guy the gift of getting back under the covers together this father's day!  Offered June 25th in New York City 6-9pm  Register at www.babymaven.org Space is Limited.  Classes in San Diego forming now. 

Study Finds Flu Vaccine Increases Hospitalization Rates

When it comes to  protecting our children's health and there may be no more devisive topic than vaccinations.  Yet,  I feel compelled to touch this hot button and share this information.  There is new research to indicate the flu vaccines put children at much higher risk for hospitalization than those children who have not received the flu vaccine.  This is especially true for children with asthma.  Science Daily recently reported a study of 263 children and found that not only was the flu vaccine not effective in preventing influenza in children but that it actually increased the risk of hospitalization three times over for children with asthma.  Despite this study  putting a giant question mark on this practice the American Academy of Pediatrics, the Center for Disease Control and the National Asthma Education and Prevention Program all recommend that children receive the flu vaccine.  What do you think?  Please share your comments. 

For Crying Out Loud: Coping with Colic & Reflux*

*A Version of This Article First Appeared in the May issue of San Diego Family Magazine

 

Does your baby cry a lot?  Maybe you’ve heard that it’s colic but what exactly is colic?

 

Colic Defined:

Colic is a little understood problem that torments up to 28% of infants and their parents.   In 1954, Morris Wessel a pediatrician at Yale, came up with the Rule of Three to define Colic as crying for more than 3 hours a day at least 3 days a week for at least 3 weeks in a row.  

 

Sometimes is seems that nothing can be done to stop the crying and parents can be left feeling as helpless as their infants.  The piercing cry of a baby with colic is a disturbing sound.  In fact, a colicky babies’ cry has been studied and found to be a more disturbing cry that that of a baby without colic.  A study in Child Development finds that colicky infants produced cries at frequencies of more than twenty one hundred hertx or nearly 25% greater frequency than non colicky babies.1  That is a significantly more distressing cry.

The ongoing sound of an inconsolable crying baby is challenging for parents to endure.  According to an article in the New Yorker, “The sound of a crying baby is just about the most disturbing, demanding, shattering noise we can hear.  The United States military has reportedly used the sound of wailing infants as an instrument of psychological stress, piping recordings…into the cells of detainees at Guantanamo Bay.”

 

Is it Colic or is it Reflux:

It seems there are trends in diagnosis.  A generation ago babies who cried frequently where labeled as having colic.  Today, many babies with these colic symptoms are diagnosed with reflux.  Yet what many parents don’t know is there is often a correlation between colic, reflux and food intolerance. 

The Cure:

Author of Baby Matters, Linda Palmer, says that “with true diligence efforts to find and avoid any irritating foods colic symptoms can be cured at a 90% success rate.”  Pediatric medical professionals such as Dr. Bob Sears recommend first removing the most common allergens which are: dairy, eggs and nuts.  If a baby is formula fed a switch to hydrolyzed hypoallergenic formula is recommended because 60% of babies with dairy allergies will also be sensitive to soy.  However, even the hypoallergenic formulas often contain corn which is a common allergen.  Breastfeeding or finding donated allergy-free breast milk is usually the best option. Labels must be read with care and all foods containing casein, whey, butter or cream, cheese, even “non-dairy” items are lactose-free yet still full of milk protein and must be avoided.  Mother’s also need to be aware that results of an elimination diet are not immediate and that it can take up to two weeks for an elimination diet to work. 

 

In addition, clinical trials indicate that probiotics can relieve symptoms of colic and reflux.  One recent study found that probiotics decreased colicky crying by a whopping seventy-five percent!2 Non dairy probiotics are also available most probiotics come in powder form that can be added to mom’s diet and to baby’s bottles of expressed breast milk.

 

Alternative Treatments:

Beyond dietary changes there are other alternatives that seem to ease colic.  A product developed by Nanette Meneses  a North County mom who had a colicky daughter is gaining a growing audience of support.  This product is called Happi Tummi and consists of a waistband and herbal pouch that is heated to release healing properties which provide almost immediate relief of most common stomach ailments. 

 

Hold Me Tender:

Parenting style also impacts a baby’s colic. Regular close contact, sometimes called attachment style parenting, will comfort a baby and reduce crying.  Linda Palmer a local attachment parenting expert shares that, “Babies are designed to be next to their parents most of the time, both day and night.” She recommends co-sleeping at night and carrying a baby in a sling by day.  In addition to a sling, bouncing a baby while sitting on an exercise ball mimics the up and down motion babies feel in the womb and can sooth even the fussiest of babies.  This type of sensory input is well demonstrated by Pediatrician Dr. Harvey Karp who practices in LA in his video The happiest baby on the block.

 

The Cost of Colic:

New trends in the treatment of colic and reflux include looking at the whole family system.  At the colic clinic at Brown Center for the Study of Children at Risk they have found that it’s critical to examine not only how chronic crying affects the baby but how it impacts the parent-child relationship.

 

Parents can be filled with self doubt and guilt about their basic abilities to nurture and provide comfort for the baby.  It can be especially difficult for parents to stop themselves from wondering if they are doing something wrong when they have friends or family that brag about other “easy” babies. 

 

Research indicates that parents of difficult to sooth babies are at risk for depression.   Feeling overwhelmed from caring for a fussy baby coupled with plaguing self consciousness about taking a crying baby out in public, results in parents of colicky babies becoming isolated.  Unfortunately, without the right resources parents can tend to withdraw at the very times when they need the most support.  There are resources in the medical, mental health and online parenting community for coping with difficult to sooth babies.  Because babies are exquisitely wired to pick up on their primary caretakers feelings, your stress becomes their stress and stress makes symptoms worse.  Therefore, if you have a high needs baby it’s essential that you get the support you need and remember to keep breathing!

Carrie Grange Isaacson, LCSW is the mother of two formerly colicky and reflux babies and the founder of Baby Maven a practice specialized in helping parents. www.babymaven.org

 

 

Notes:

  1. Zeskind PS, Barr RG.Acoustic characteristics of naturally occurring cries of infants with “colic”Child Development 1997;68(3):394-403.

2.       Francesco Savino, MD, Emanuela Pelle, MD,Elisabetta Palumeri, MD, Roberto Oggero, MD and Roberto Miniero, MD Lactobacillus reuteri (American Type Culture Collection Strain 55730) Versus Simethicone in the Treatment of Infantile Colic: A Prospective Randomized Study